Does couples therapy work?
The truth is that couples therapy stresses out the therapist
too. They decided that it is time for practitioners to address their feelings
and vent. Couples therapy is very challenging it isn’t easy to deal with. You don’t
want a therapist to be sensitive, calm, empathic, and accepting. You want
someone that is going to get in there and mix it up with the client. It is hard
to deal with two strong individuals that are colliding together. At first husbands
and wives wouldn’t go to therapy together. Then in the late 60’s and 70’s
divorce rates were raising and they started seeing them in pairs. When the therapist
saw the couple together this became known as conjoint therapy. The goal of marriage
therapy wasn’t to maintain the relationship but to help them take charge of
themselves. Who and what is to be taken charge of is still unknown. Some types
of couples therapy is known to work better than others. They are not study how
people change. None of this is going to resolve the real underlying problem.